Today’s five-minute write word is WHY.
How many times I have asked why of the Lord. Why is there no time to just do the things I like and want to do? Why do I have to work so many hours? Why do you ask me to write yet there is no support and understanding from the people around me so I work outside of the home? Why do I not have more energy? Why?
Why is one of the questions we all learn to ask at an early age. Why is the sky blue? Why can’t I do that? Why can’t I come with you? Why? Why?
It’s not that it is wrong to ask Why but it depends on your attitude when you ask and the kind of why question. When kids ask why do birds sing? Why is the sky blue? These are seeking knowledge kind of questions but when they start to question why you said no you cannot watch that movie, or no you cannot go alone to the park, do you want them to trust that you know best or to believe they are wiser than you and know the best way to do things?
As I have gotten older and grown in my relationship with God, He has brought me to the understanding that “Why” is the wrong question to ask. He made me aware of how I felt when asked why I did things the way I did. It was this revelation of my own response to the question why that helped me to understand that why is the wrong question to ask.
When people ask me why I did something, I feel attacked, I feel like they are calling me stupid and that I don’t measure up, especially when they offer advice or start with “If it was me I would ….” As soon as I had that revelation about myself, I came to understand why the question “Why?” is not the right question to ask God.
In Job 24, Job asks, “Why doesn’t the Almighty bring the wicked to judgment? Why must the godly wait for him in vain?”
Before that in chapter 13 Job states, “I want to argue my case with God himself”.
(Isn’t that what we are doing when we ask Him why? Read Chapter 13 and see all the questions Job asks, one of which is “Are you defending God….?”)
However, The Lord did not answer immediately, it is in chapter 38 that He responds to Job, “Who is this that questions my wisdom with such ignorant words? Brace yourself like a man because I have some questions for you, and you must answer them.”
Are we ready for that same response when we are wanting to bring our case before Him, because when we ask Why? is that not what we are doing.
The Lord showed me how when I would ask him why I was not trusting Him. I was questioning His wisdom and knowledge of the situation, of me, of others and not trusting that He knew what He was doing. That it was an “attack” on His Character. Instead He turned my question to, What are you doing in this? This was so I would start to seek what His purpose was and how can I join Him in what He is doing. How can I cooperate with Him so His will is accomplished in the situation.
In my journey since returning to Canada I have had the question Why on my lips a few times, but in His mercy and grace He has helped me to turn my Why into a vision and picture of what He desires and longs to accomplish in me and in the people around me. He has turned my focus to one of seeking what He is doing in the situation, what is He setting up to accomplish in me and in others through the uncomfortable situations He has brought me into.
I think when we ask the Lord Why He is doing something or allowing something to happen it is a suggestion to Him that we know better, we would do it differently, it is questioning His ability to do what is best and His wisdom in all things.
It’s not that He gets upset at us for asking why, it’s not that He becomes angry about it but it is the wrong question. He will not answer it because He does not ever need to defend himself.
The next time someone asks you why you are doing something the way you do, take note of your internal response. How does that question make you feel? and How do you respond when asked Why?
Maybe instead of asking why, we should remember the biggest and best thing He has done. The Father sent His Son to earth. Why? For us, so we could remember that He knows, He cares and He is there. He suffered the loss of His Son, He watched His Son be murdered by the people He wanted to save. Where does that leave our question Why?