Regrets, I’ve had a few….
As I started to think about this word, this old song came to mind. I know it’s not biblical or uplifting but oh my isn’t it truth, but isn’t this what the world is good at, at teaching us to do. We all have done things our own way, just like it says in this song, some of us with more regrets than others. Isaiah 53:6 says,
All of us like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all.
Unfortunately my regrets are not too few, but too many. This morning, on Facebook, I was checking to see about a nephew of mine who had not posted anything for a while. He is struggling with a severe drug addiction and I found on his page a comment that broke my heart. A comment about Christians, and oh regret fell and surrounded me, regret that I had not stayed more connected to him, involved in his life.
You see he was the first nephew born in the same city where I was living, I was so happy. I was young and I was not a christian at the time. I was a mess. I left that city to go find life elsewhere and I did find life. Eventually I found Him who is LIFE and because I found Him I then had new life too. This new life journey took me farther from my family, however, it was my choice to not stay in touch. I walked away because no one wanted to hear about Jesus, I tried, I prayed, I cried, but they just didn’t want to hear about what it means to be born again. To really believe. So, believing I was following the Lord I went away. I travelled, I went to Bible College and I taught overseas, but I did not keep in touch with my family a lot. Now, I regret this. I don’t know if it would have made a difference in my nephew’s life or not. I know regret will not change anything, I know it will only tear me down and this is not right to allow it to destroy me, because I cannot make decisions for my nephew or anyone else.
So, I must lay this burden down. I must take the next step and continue to pray, because prayer does make a difference, even in the hardest hearts. Psalm 55:22
Give your burdens to the LORD, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.
This is my hope, that He can take the burden of guilt and regret.
Matthew 11, Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.“
2 Corinthians 7:10, tells me, For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. ..
So, I see the way out from regret is to have the godly sorrow that casts the shame and regret on Jesus’s shoulders. Here I can find freedom from all my regrets. Sorrow over our regrets is healthy, because it has a refining influence on us.
Ecclesiastes 7:3, Sorrow is better than laughter, for sadness has a refining influence on us.
James 4 tells us to Let there be tears for what you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter and gloom instead of joy.
But then, if we repent, and call on God, humble ourselves He has a great promise for us.
Humble yourself before the Lord, and He will lift you up in honor.
James 4 also tells us, We must resist the devil and run to God, no matter the regret. Turn to him, cast the burden on him and trust him to work it all out. I think to realize that life is not in my hands but in his, that My Father comes close to me when I come close to him in a humble attitude. He will take care of it, he will guide me and lead me, even in what and how to pray so I can truly be free of regret because He is and He always will be the one in charge.
(I cheated this time and wrote a little longer but really hope this blesses someone else today, I love how God speaks and shows truth no matter the word for writing on Fridays. He is so good and I hope hope fills your heart as you read these words.)